- Imagining how others see us
- Imagining how others judge us, based on what they see
- Imagining how others feel about us, based on those judgements

Managing the Mirror
Identity is so much more than how we feel about ourselves. There’s an internal factor to it, but there’s also an external factor. It’s a constant PR act, the managing of how we appear to the world. This is more the case than ever, in the days of social media. We are constantly on show.
What we’re talking about here goes back to old school social psychology: back to Mead and Cooley, and the concept of the looking-glass self.
Meade’s theory was fairly simple. In his opinion, our self-concept is formed by our social interactions, in three stages: